I’m growing into myself. I’ve said this before, but this time I really think that I am. I’m happy with myself. I’m happy with my morals and values and goals. I don’t need anyone to make me feel like I’m worth anything. I know that I’m worth, well, everything. I think that goes for everyone else, too. Not many people realize it.
I think that one of the most important things that anyone has said to me was that I was worth it. We were talking about relationships and about how so many girls settle for the first guy to look their way because they so desperately want to be in a relationship. It’s as though a lot of girls look at a relationship as a letter of acceptance; a guy likes a girl and she is finally complete because there is someone else who likes all of her little quirks and idiosyncrasies. He thinks she’s worth is, so she that means that she is. But, others always emphasized that it shouldn’t be that way. I strongly agreed with that—I never thought that I needed to be in a relationship to be happy…but, in retrospect, I’m not sure how much I honestly believed my own words. I intellectually knew that I shouldn’t gauge my happiness on whether or not someone enjoyed spending time with me, but I couldn’t help but to feel differently at times. I mean, we do exist in our interactions. Our relationships with others do matter. So, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of a significant other, especially since it’s so enforced by society and the media. I sometimes found myself falling into a trap and thinking that I’m not that special because no one has noticed me. Because I’m not in a relationship. Because so many other people are in relationships and are so lucky to be in such a position. But, it’s not like that.
We don’t need someone else to make us feel complete. We don’t need someone else to make us feel better about whom we are. And, we certainly don’t need someone else to know us better than ourselves. I now know that. I now recognize that my own happiness is in no way dependent on one other person. I still believe that we exist in our interactions, but I don’t think that one sole person will or should help me to grow into myself. That’s my job, and I don’t need someone else’s stamp of approval. I need friends and family to guide me, to love me, to support me, but I don’t need to be in a relationship to get that love. I know that it’s so easy to feel good about you and feel confident when there is someone there who is loving and affectionate. The real test of character, however, is to believe in yourself when you’re on your own. And, honestly, it is so liberating to realize this. I never thought that I’d see this way, but I now do. I’m finally at the stage where I know that I deserve the best. And, if someone doesn’t treat me that way then that person is not worth it. Everyone deserves that appreciation. They really do—there is no reason to settle.
Thank you to everyone who has brought me to this point.
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